After the age of 40, the woman no longer cares about getting pregnant, gradually giving up the use of hygienic towels and tampons, with the opportunity to enjoy herself and her partner, since the children are “big” and generally out of the home with his friends. There is no need to stress or hurry. In addition, menopause does not mean the end of sexual life, as there is evidence that not only sexual desire but also the pleasure, increase with age.
Therefore, do not think that only beauty and youth are synonyms of sexuality; the woman still with wrinkles and a few extra pounds is also desirable.
SEX: IS IT ONLY A FANTASY?
We are all convinced that the sexual impulse has a predominantly psychological origin, controlled to some extent by the hormones that circulate in the blood; therefore, the decrease in estrogen and other steroids only play a partial role (vaginal dryness, irritation, desire) in their drive for sex. So a woman’s sexual response depends on her partner’s interest and reaction. It is possible that her husband, boyfriend or lover is going through her own crisis of middle age, diminishing her sexual response, problems that often justify blaming the woman so it will be necessary to understand it and not be influenced by that new state of a lifetime.
The secret to fully enjoy your sexuality is summarized in permanent and free communication. It is important to give yourself more time for sexual expression.
The decrease in estrogen and metabolism over 40 leads to a series of symptoms such as difficulty to lose weight, tiredness, lack of energy, low self-esteem, and poor memory, associated with hot flashes, migraines and night sweats, are associated with a decrease in sexual pleasure.
Sleeping badly and feeling great fatigue are enough reasons for anyone of the same age to lose interest in sex. Nevertheless; over the years this can be reversed by increasing levels of testosterone (sex hormone). Therefore, sexual desire is not going to be lost after menopause.
Usually, the changes in her anatomy will be gradual, different in each woman, those that can be controlled and even avoided thanks to a good diet, exercise, healthy life and the use of estrogens.
In some women, the lower elasticity of the vagina and lack of lubrication causes such vaginal dryness that the intercourse is painful and uncomfortable, causing in many of them a refusal and a pretext not to let oneself touch. In these cases, in addition to emotional support, estrogen is indicated, however; sometimes it is contraindicated or the woman is afraid to use it so we must think of alternatives that serve as external lubricants.
One of them is vegetable oil. Avoid oils with alcohol, as they would irritate the vagina. Do not use Vaseline (a petroleum derivative) as it is very soluble in water and could penetrate the vagina and urethra, causing irritation, and possibly infection.
After 40, the vagina loses its acidity and becomes alkaline, so more frequent falls and inflammation. Avoid tight, non-cotton clothing; eat less sugar and refined carbohydrates, which decrease the nutrients that fight the infection. Lastly, do not forget to urinate immediately after each sexual act, to prevent microbes from entering the urethra and suffering from a urinary tract infection.
EXERCISES AND SEXUAL PLEASURE
We all know that an elastic and well-toned body is healthier than a “fluffy” and weak.
Then, exercising the muscles of the vagina, belly and back help prolong the years of sexual pleasure. Having good tonicity in the pelvic organs there will be less back pain, prolapse, urinary incontinence and excessive dryness. In addition, as we have discussed, Kegel exercises not only strengthen the pelvic floor but also improve sexual satisfaction.
FACTORS AFFECTING SEX LIFE
There are many factors that can affect our sexuality, including:
• Tranquilizers, antidepressants, diuretics, amphetamines, muscle relaxants, among others.
• Excess work.
• Stress, frustration, and depression.
In conclusion, it is necessary to have a healthy life to enjoy sex because age is not a limitation to enjoy and have pleasure even when over the years we have the mark of time.